…We have a fussy time, folks.
I kept thinking that I couldn’t really label it as a fussy time because at this point, our days are very random with very little routine. But, for the past two weeks, Forrest has fussed faithfully in the hours before “bedtime” (in other words, before he falls asleep for the longest stretch). Usually, the fussing lasts a couple of hours or more, and it almost always ends by 8:30pm, when he finally falls asleep (although he’s changed it up a couple of times, it happens that way more often than not).
Now, I’m using the word “fussy,” but truly Forrest’s version of fussing is very mild. Be that as it may, though, it really stresses me out because he is usually such a calm, relaxed baby!
My biggest problem is this: when he fusses, he does not want to be worn in the wrap. Or the sling. He doesn’t like the “football hold.” He doesn’t want to be rocked or bounced or burped or sang to. He doesn’t even want to nurse! I went so far as to offer a pacifier (even though I so passionately do not want to use one) because he seems to want to suck but arches his back and yells every time I try to nurse him. The pacifier sometimes seems to help, but not for long (in all honesty, it makes me proud that he doesn’t really want a pacifier). I’m at a loss.
It’s so weird to me that he doesn’t want to nurse. I’m trying not to take it personally, to be perfectly honest! I feel so unsure of myself when he effectively rejects everything I offer. I’m the mama. Shouldn’t I be able to soothe him? Isn’t mama’s milk the cure-all? I don’t understand what I’m supposed to do in these situations.
When Jack used to fuss, it was because he had bad gas. And we knew that we could bend his legs and massage his tummy and eventually, all would be well. But Forrest’s fussing doesn’t appear to be due to anything. He’s just…mad.
So, that was all a very long-winded way of asking: how do you do it?! When your baby fusses/fussed, what worked for you? For those of you who don’t like to use pacifiers, what do/did you do when your baby refuses/refused to nurse but seemed to be rooting around like crazy? Forrest is not a high-need baby, so it’s not driving me crazy, but I’d hate to make him go through this without trying to get more ideas on how to soothe him. At least I’d know I’d tried everything I could.
I welcome your thoughts!