I’m approaching a fork in the road within my journey of nursing while pregnant. I naively assumed that this would probably not happen – but, it has.
Jack has stopped requesting to nurse on a consistent basis. He still wants to, but his timing is very random, and sometimes, he only nurses for a couple of minutes on each side. Other times, like last night before bed, he nurses for almost 15 minutes on each side! He hasn’t done that since he was a little baby – he’s always been quick. I don’t mind the length of time (or lack thereof), but I have noticed that I don’t really know what’s going to happen if he keeps this up.
A couple of days ago, he only nursed twice. At the most, he nurses 4 times in a day – sometime after he wakes up, before his nap, in the afternoon sometime, and before he bathes and goes to bed. On Saturday, he nursed once in the early afternoon and then before bed. It was so weird! I kept thinking, “Should I offer it to him? Or should I wait for him to ask?” I decided to wait because I wanted to see what he’d do – but that’s not what I’ve done every time. This morning, he was cranky, and although he wasn’t asking to nurse, I knew it would help him feel better. I asked if he wanted to, and he immediately started whimpering in agreement (cute!).
So here’s my fork in the road: should I ask him if he’d like to nurse, or should I always wait for him to ask me? If I leave it to him to ask, isn’t it possible that my supply will decrease, especially because of the pregnancy? And then what happens if he suddenly goes into a phase where he really wants to nurse? I’m just not sure what to do. I know I want to allow him to wean himself in his own time, but admittedly, I don’t know what that looks like. Do I push him to nurse until he refuses? Or am I to stand back and let him decide? It’s kind of sad to think of him weaning. He obviously will eventually, but sometimes I still feel like he was just born and the idea of Jack weaning is just crazy to me. I’m sure all you moms understand!
I know I have to go with my gut about this, but I’d appreciate some thoughts from the moms who have experienced child-led weaning, and especially those who have nursed while pregnant. I am not familiar with this stuff, but it’s very important to me!