My first thought on the Lost Art of Parenting is this:
I was a wife before I became a mother. I believe that while my children are (cherished) temporary visitors in my home, my husband is there to stay and should be treated as an important, respected part of the family.
Jen’s comment is a helpful addition to this bit. “Your statement that, “I was a wife before I became a mother”, is so true &, for me, a humbling reminder. It is so easy to get wrapped up into putting all of our effort into our children, and it is so incredibly crucial to be careful not to neglect our husbands & marriages.”
Although my young children’s needs may come before my husband’s out of necessity (especially as infants) and should never be neglected, I can’t forget that our goal is to raise adults, not children. And, more importantly, my aim is to get those adults safely out of my house and on their own. My husband, however, will be a part of my daily life forever! It is unlikely that you will find truly happy parents when the husband-wife relationship is not doing so well!
It is so easy to get wrapped up in taking care of our children! While I only have one child, I am very aware of this reality. Some cases differ, but for the most part, we are mothers, in a way, because of our husbands (that’s not to neglect God’s vital role, of course!). Where would my son be without Ryan? He plays a huge part – not just in creating our child with me, but in rearing him alongside me as well! Children need to know that their parents have a secure and happy marriage. It contributes to their confidence. What good will it do anyone to neglect my marriage?
Loving our husbands is also a biblical mandate – Titus 2 says, in verse 4, that we are to be trained to love our husbands, and in verse 5, it says we must be subject to them, all to ensure that the Word of God will not be maligned. That’s a big deal!
What do you think? Do you have anything to add? How have you learned to love your husband while still juggling your motherly duties? Do share!
For the original post, see: The Lost Art of Parenting – Let’s Talk