I posted a blog on the Lost Art of Parenting yesterday. Later on, while reading through it once again, it occurred to me that each point I brought up could be a post in and of itself. So, I decided to edit my original post by breaking it down into a summary. From there, we can go on to have some reader-involved discussions on our feelings toward the Lost Art of Parenting. Feel free to join in!
I’ve been digesting something for a while and I’d love for you to give me your input! Once you’ve read through the post, take a moment to leave a comment with your thoughts/ideas on this subject. This is an ever-present issue and I love learning about other people’s journeys through parenting.
Last Monday, I was talking to my counselor about the kind of Mom’s Group I’d like to be a part of. After explaining to her my idea of parenting and the types of moms I’d like to surround myself with, she said, “You know, you seem to be very passionate about the lost art of parenting.” I thought she made a great and simple point, and I started to think about the Lost Art of Parenting and what, exactly, it is.
Obviously, our current culture has greatly modified the perception of “good parenting.” All of us parents are somehow qualified experts if we have a child, and we are only held responsible for making decisions that “work” for us and make us “feel good.” It’s quite sad. Parenting is usually just another word for going with thetrend. Many of us (myself included) have blindly follow parenting experts in books and magazines without actually taking the time to consider what will be beneficial, healthy, and edifying for our whole family according to our God-given parental intuition.
I’ve stood by and watched many examples of parenting throughout my (albeit short thus far) life. Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve had a passion for becoming a wife and mother. I gleaned techniques from where I could, babysat constantly, and observed quietly. I thought I had it all down when I first became pregnant. “I’m not going to be one of those parents who lets their kids control them! They need to know, from a young age, what the real world is like!” I’d state matter-of-factly. Then, I had Jack. “I can’t bear the thought of letting him cry for any reason. He’s a little baby, he doesn’t know any better!” I’d whisper sweetly. Then, I was sleep-deprived and confused, and off to the books I ran. In the end, I realized I’d forgotten something very, very important – God. Had I asked him for direction? I tossed the books aside and turned my eyes toward the only reliable source, the One who made me a mother in the first place.
Slowly but surely, he stripped away all of my concerns and anxieties. I was able to relax – and to trust him to guide me through each difficult time! I was amazed at the difference it had made.
More recently, I’ve begun to uncover exactly what I believe parenting should look like. Truth be told, I don’t think we’ll be judged, at the end of our days, based solely on our parenting styles. I do, however, believe that we ought to strive to honor God with all of our daily choices, including how we raise our children. Here are some of my thoughts…
I was a wife before I became a mother. I believe that while my children are (cherished) temporary visitors in my home, my husband is there to stay and should be treated as an important, respected part of the family.
Let’s greet our children the natural way. Basically, I feel it is important to give babies the gift of a natural, uninhibited birth when possible.
Breast is best. I believe it’s important to breastfeed our children, for the sake of their health, when possible.
Healthy foods are a priority. We owe it to our children to foster healthy eating habits from an early age.
Choose doctors, medications and vaccinations wisely. I believe that it’s important to consider alternative routes to health before relying solely on a medical doctor to fix/maintain our health (although medical doctors can sometimes be of great service).
Products matter, too. As parents, we are responsible to preserve our children’s health by becoming educated and choosing healthy products.
Discipline is absolutely necessary. There is an anti-punishment/anti-consequence movement in the world of parenting, which completely ignores the Bible’s clear instructions on how to raise our children well.
Church is not just for grown-ups. Children do not need to be tucked away into childcare, but instead, can be taught to enjoy church as a family event, not only a grown-up event.
Homeschooling. Homeschooling provides children with quality education that simply cannot be matched in a private/public school setting.
Children are to be enjoyed. We live in a time where children are viewed as an inconvenience. This should not be so.
Forget the parenting books. I believe that we ought to put our faith in God’s Word and the quality people he’s placed around us to counsel us as opposed to methods and rules given by “experts” that only speak from their personal experiences.
Don’t get caught up in a trend. We must reconnect with the art of parenting (focused entirely on honoring the Lord with our decisions), not the trend of parenting (which focuses on playing the part of a hip, social role).
Those are some of the things I associate with the Lost Art of Parenting. What do you think? Do you have anything to add? What are some topics we can discuss on these matters? Is there something you disagree with? Let’s talk!
I’d love to “hear” what you have to say!